Leading with Responsibility: The Tale of The Wolf You Feed

In an age-old tale, an old Cherokee shared with his grandson the ongoing battle within each person. He described this inner conflict as a struggle between two "wolves": one embodying negative traits such as anger, envy, and arrogance, while the other encapsulated positive qualities like joy, kindness, and empathy.

The grandson pondered and asked, "Which wolf wins?"

The wise Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

This parable, known as “The Wolf You Feed,” encapsulates how our actions and character shape who we become. The traits we nourish within ourselves reverberate through our interactions and ultimately influence the culture of our organizations. As a mentor once shared with me, our demeanor sets the tone for how our team responds to us daily. Much like a weather forecaster, our disposition can brighten the atmosphere, encouraging happiness or cast a shadow, prompting our team to seek cover until the storm passes. This analogy echoes the principle of feeding positivity to promote its growth and vice versa.

Assuming responsibility for feeding the right "wolf" rests with the individual. However, three fundamental rituals enable leaders to navigate this responsibility effectively:

Firstly, cultivating a mentorship relationship is crucial at every career stage. Regardless of where you are in your career path, whether at the trailhead, breaking brush, or summit, we all need a mentor. Mentorship isn't a one-way street; it's a mutual learning platform where both parties benefit. This connection facilitates a comprehensive exchange of experiences and wisdom, fostering mutual growth.

Secondly, leaders must prioritize activities that nourish their souls—distinct from work. Achieving a work-life balance demands personal discipline and respect for family and organizational commitments. A hobby like fishing, hiking, or reading is a mental vacation, allowing the brain to rejuvenate. Emulating the work ethic of esteemed figures like General Officers and CEOs necessitates the ability to disconnect, fostering mental peace.

Finally, staying grounded in one's origins is crucial. Most people don't start at the peak of success, and many receive help along the way. Remembering the journey to success and acknowledging the dedication and hours invested benefits personal growth and fosters genuine gratitude towards one's team and efforts.

The responsibility of leadership extends beyond the professional realm; it encompasses personal growth, empathy, and a commitment to fostering positivity in oneself and others.